Solving Disconnection & Creating Connected Relationships (for Couples & Parents)

66: Repair, what it means and why it's so hard

Jason A Polk

In this episode of 'Solving Disconnection and Creating Connected Relationships for Couples and Parents,' therapist and coach Jason Polk delves into the importance of repair in relationships, why it's challenging, and how to effectively navigate it. Polk explains the concept of repair as restoring relationships after conflicts and discusses two main barriers: ego and lack of skills. He shares personal insights and strategies, including the importance of repairing in the moment and post-conflict methods like offering a sincere apology and sharing vulnerability. He emphasizes that repair is vital for healthy relationships and provides practical advice for couples to enhance their connection. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize repair over ego for the sake of their relationships and families.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:28 Understanding Conflict and Repair
01:11 The Role of Ego in Repair
03:39 Repairing in the Moment
05:15 Repairing After a Fight
08:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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This episode was inspired by this blog: The Art of Repair: What It Means and Why It's So Hard